
“What’s chastity?”
Chastity is a virtue (like courage or honesty) that applies to a person’s sexuality. It means that you take all of your sexual desires and order them according to the demands of real love. For example, when you love a person, you make whatever sacrifice is best for them and you do whatever is necessary to keep from harming them. Chastity means that you take this definition of love and apply it to sex.
Some think that chastity simply means “no sex.” But that’s abstinence: focusing on what you can’t do and can’t have. Chastity is what you can do and can have, right now: a lifestyle that brings freedom, respect, peace, and even romance—without regret. Chastity frees a couple from the selfish attitude of using each other as objects, thus making them capable of true love.
Exert from Pure Love, by Jason Everet
Benefits of Chastity/Abstinence
1) Communion With God… staying in the State of Grace.
2) Find true happiness and love.
3) Preserve and protect the best gift you could ever give your future spouse.
4) Become the person God intended you to be.
5) Stay happy and healthy.
6) Experience more freedom, peace, happiness, respect and even romance.
Chastity/Abstinence Themes
True Love Waits
I am Worth the Wait
You may think I’m a loser, I’m weird, I’m a geek, I’m crazy, I’m a prude, I’m a nerd…But I’m worth Waiting For.
A man’s strength is in his Character.
I choose to respect myself.
I choose to be strong.
Passion for living,
Purity in relationships,
Principles for life
My man will respect me as much as I respect myself.
My Prince doesn’t Pressure
My princess is worth waiting for!
Chastity Bible Passage
1COR 6:13 “Food for the stomach and the stomach for food”–but God will
destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the
Lord, and the Lord for the body.
1COR 6:17 But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit.
1COR 6:18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.
COL 3:5 Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature:
sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is
idolatry.
1 THESS 4:7 For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life.
Purity Quotes
Purity
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“Only the chaste man and the chaste woman are capable of true love.”
- Pope John Paul II
“Chastity is a difficult, long term matter; one must wait patiently for it to bear fruit, for the happiness of loving kindness which it must bring. But at the same time, chastity is the sure way to happiness.”
- Pope John Paul II
“Deep within yourself, listen to your conscience which calls you to be pure . . . a home is not warmed by the fire of pleasure which burns quickly like a pile of withered grass. Passing encounters are only a caricature of love; they injure hearts and mock God’s plan.”
- Pope John Paul II
“[God] has assigned as a duty to every man the dignity of every woman.”
- Pope John Paul II
“To be pure, to remain pure, can only come at a price, the price of knowing God and loving him enough to do his will. He will always give us the strength we need to keep purity as something as beautiful for him.”
- Blessed Mother Teresa
“Holy Purity is granted by God when it is asked for with humility.”
- St. Josemaria Escriva
“‘Purity?’ they ask. And they smile. They are the ones who go on to marriage with worn-out bodies and disillusioned souls.”
- St. Josemaria Escriva
“By Lust I mean that affection of the mind that aims at the enjoyment of one’s self and one’s neighbor without reference to God.”
- St. Augustine
“Lust indulged became habit, and habit unresisted became necessity.”
- St. Augustine
“There is need for a crusade of manliness and purity to counteract and nullify the savage work of those who think man is a beast. And that crusade is your work.”
- St. Josemaria Escriva
“Many live like angels in the middle of the world. You,
why not you?”
- St. Josemaria Escriva
“When you decide firmly to lead a clean life, chastity will not be a burden on you: it will be a crown of triumph.”
- St. Josemaria Escriva
“Don’t be such as coward as to be ‘brave.’ Flee!”
- St. Josemaria Escriva
“When you have sought the company of a sensual satisfaction, what loneliness afterward!”
- St. Josemaria Escriva
“To defend his purity, Saint Francis of Assisi rolled in the snow, Saint Benedict threw himself into a thornbush, Saint Bernard plunged into an icy pond . . . You . . . what have you done?”
- St. Josemaria Escriva
“Don’t say, ‘That’s the way I am-its my character.’ It’s your lack of character. Esto vir!-Be a man!”
- St. Josemaria Escriva
“Purity is the fruit of prayer.”
- Blessed Mother Teresa
“Purity prepares the soul for love, and love confirms the soul in purity.”
- John Henry Cardinal Newman
“Holy Purity, the queen of virtues, the angelic virtue, is a jewel so precious that those who possess it become like the angels of God in heaven, even though clothed in mortal flesh.”
- St. John Bosco
“As soon as you willfully allow a dialogue with temptation to begin, the soul is robbed of peace, just as consent to impurity destroys grace.”
- St. Josemaria Escriva
“Temptation is necessary to make us realize that we are nothing in ourselves.”
- St. Josemaria Escriva
“More souls go to hell because of sins of the flesh than for any other reason.”
- Our Lady of Fatima
Chastity Prayer
Chastity Is…
A special help from God
that enables me to:
recognize my sexuality as beautiful and good
respect my sexuality and my fertility
control my sexual powers
control my sexual thoughts and desires
live my gift of sexuality the way God intended
save the gift of myself for marriage
love and respect my spouse.
Chastity is…
a gift from God
for every person in every state of life
a powerful virtue
a foundation for real intimacy
purity of mind and body
protection of my dignity as a human person
freedom to love.
Chastity is…
sexual goodness
sexual self-control
never using another person
good for me
good for my soul
good for the people I love
pleasing to God.
Chastity is…
not always easy, but it is always possible with God’s help.
Chastity is…
worth it because I’m worth it…
and so is my spouse.